« Networking 101 | Main | Pieter's feeling better »

March 04, 2005

Irreconcilable Differences

ir·rec·on·cil·a·ble adj.

Impossible to reconcile: irreconcilable differences n.

1. A person, especially a member of a group, who will not compromise, adjust, or submit.
2. One of two or more conflicting ideas or beliefs that cannot be brought into harmony.

ir·rec'on·cil'a·bil'i·ty n. ir·rec'on·cil'a·bly adv.

You know, it's those times in a relationship when you hit a brick wall, when nothing you say or do makes any difference. The other person has made up their mind about you and they won't be swayed.

Part of me is very sad that someone who knows me can even think things like this about me. But the other part of me is thinking, hold on a minute, to be able to come to those conclusions about me; to be able to accuse me of those awful things: where is your head at? You have accused me of things I could never imagine myself saying or doing, so how can you imagine me saying or doing them? These thoughts were never even in my head, so why were they in yours?

If you allow anger to make your decisions for you; if you allow it to colour the view you have of your friends, your feelings for them, then you will only be able see bad in them. To see them as they truly are, you have to put aside your hurt and ask yourself why they were ever your friend to begin with. What is it about this person, this imperfect, fallable human being that attracted you in the first place? Is it still there or have they changed beyond all recognition? Or are you allowing your own pride, anger, jealousy, whatever it is to come between you?

If you still cannot see the beautiful person that they were, then walk away, it's gone. If you can though, if you can still recognise the person who first made you laugh; held your hand; trusted you; supported you; loved you; then you have work to do. Don't use the excuse that it's too hard, it's a lame excuse, nothing worth having is too hard and, besides, you're not scared of a little hard work are you? Don't use the excuse that it's too late either, it's never too late. There is always a way, if it's what you want.


You just have to ask yourself what you want!

Posted by lilliebet at March 4, 2005 07:27 AM

Trackback Pings

TrackBack URL for this entry:
http://www.deckertechnology.net/mt/mt-tb.cgi/4

Comments

Post a comment




Remember Me?

(you may use HTML tags for style)