lilliebet

hmmmmm, ah so that explains it!!!

I wish it did. Still can't see it myself.

Maybe you could look at what you say over and over about another person as an example. They usually disagree with what you say but its still true as far as you are concerned

Then apply the stuff they say about you to your own life... there is usually some truth there but not as they have spoken it. You might want to put it into your own words

It worked for me

It worked for me

I'm sure you're right Bill, you're always right.

All I know is I'm tired of having to defend myself when I've done nothing wrong - at least, not deliberately.

And I'm tired of malice, ill-will, bad feelings, whatever you want to call it. I'm just tired.

Well as I can comment...

Its the defending that becomes the tiresome bit. Even if you have done nothing wrong! You are allowed to say "thats bullshit" and move on.

In none of the manuals does it say that you have to defend yourself, in fact, defending oneself against crap just brings you down.

Live life as you want to live it and don't apologise if someone else has difficulty with that.

I saw a signature once (was it parputt) "Never argue with an idiot, they will only drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"

Very well said. The "moving on" though is the hard part. There are some people in your life you can't move on from, like family for instance. But, yes, you make good sense.

Well if you can't move on then maybe coming to an understanding (within yourself)that a particular person is a drag on your disposition can help.

Usually, you defend stuff that you aren't quite 100% positive on. When you are 100% in favour of your path, then any counter comments you can ignore.

Its the lack of surity in your own path that creates enough of a doubt for the other person to get a dig in.

I find that if I am struggling with what someone else is saying then I

1/ decide if there is any truth in it (even if you find some its a positive because you can do something about yourself if you wish to)
2/ look at my own path and decide if this comment is moving me down it or away from it
3/ Sometimes its the other person with the problem. If you are honest enough with yourself to want to improve then you also have to be honest enough to admit that, a particular comment or person is coming from another angle and its either going to help or hinder
If it helps... great, if not, forget it

No explaination necessary, just live your life. You deserve it!

Like I said, you're always right. Thanks.