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August 30, 2005
A Blast from the Past
Sitting on the train this morning I got a sudden whiff of aftershave from the guy sitting behind me. It was the one an ex boyfriend of mine used to wear and it brought back sudden memories of evenings out together, him all freshly showered and reeking of Izzy Miyake, and the fun times we used to have. Boy we used to laugh when we were together.
Sadly it all went to pot and, in the end, things turned real ugly and those are the things I remember. I'd pretty much forgotten all the good stuff, until this morning that is when that smell sparked a memory and it really made me smile.
I guess that's true of a lot of people when relationships turn sour but why do we focus on the negatives so often when there is so much more to gain from the positives?
It's like right now, there's a guy who I would say is the best friend I have. We have so much in common, we feel and think alike on so many subjects but we are also different enough that there is some spark and variety to the relationship.
Sometimes though, that spark ignites and we have the inevitable bust up. Well, yeah, these things happen, get over it! Problem is, we tend to focus on these negative events far more than we do on the great stuff. Why is it in relationships, be it friends or family, a lifetime of love and loyalty from a person can be dashed out by a needless petty argument? And why do we sometimes feel that healing our rifts isn't worth the effort? Is it really that hard to get over ourselves and enjoy our friends?
So I ask myself, is this funny, lovable, fantastic person, who brings a huge amount of joy and laughter to my life, worth that little bit of effort? Well of course he is, I just hope he thinks I'm worth it too.
Posted by lilliebet at August 30, 2005 06:19 PM
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Its always the little things you forget about, but those little things can be the happiest memories :)
Posted by: Tiff at August 31, 2005 12:03 AM
Great points. I had the same post title as you did today. Weird.
Posted by: Erin at August 31, 2005 12:18 AM
I'm sure he does Liz.
Unfortunately the negatives sometimes blind us to what's right before our eyes.
Posted by: OldGuy at August 31, 2005 02:35 AM
Agreed. I guess we seek perfection and when it doesn't happen all we feel is the injury. Maybe we just expect to feel good all the time?
Smells are so nostalgic, aren't they?
Posted by: Z at September 1, 2005 12:50 PM
So they say, smells provoke more memories than any other sense. I bet a lot of us would say the smell of freshly cut grass brings back happy memories of childhood. I know it does for me.
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at September 1, 2005 08:39 PM
How about the smell of a fairground? That feels good.
Posted by: Z at September 1, 2005 09:28 PM
Mmmmmm fried onions from the hot dog stand... ooh yes!
Posted by: lilliebet at September 1, 2005 09:37 PM