lilliebet

I got to know a bloke recently through work. We've been helping each other out with some stuff and we've become quite pally. As the friendship's progressed (as friendships do) we've relaxed, become less formal, and the banter has flowed. Recently though, the banter has turned to innuendo and there's been some blatant flirting... all in good fun it has to be said.

But last night I had to pull him up. You see he's married, to a gorgeous lady and has two sons. I told him, "don't you think you're being a bit stupid risking all that." He got rather defensive then, protesting that it was just talk and he we would never carry it through. He even told me to "get a life".

But there in lies the problem. I have a life, a single life, that I'm quite content with right now and have no designs on him whatsoever but I'm at liberty to flirt and banter with whoever I like, I'm single, I have nothing to lose. He does and that's what I tried to explain to him....

He doesn't know me, he doesn't know what I'm capable of. I could be bunny boiler of the year 2005 for all he knows. Luckily for him, I'm not and I know he's not serious but I don't think it's occurred to him that his wife might not see it in the same light. I don't know her but there's every chance she would see light-hearted banter and flirting as bad a transgression as cheating. Some women do and it's something he should maybe consider.

I hope he doesn't stay offended by my words, I hope he can see my good intentions. But, if not, I just hope he counts himself lucky that it was me who brought this up... not bunny boiler of the year 2005.